Comments: Sunday's best

You will be civil and nice, I know you will. No one truly knows his reasons or exactly what he's going through, and he may just not care to explain at this point. But I'm sure you know this.

I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. So good of you to be there for others as you have been lately, while dealing with your own challenges.

Posted by Scoakat on 26 June, 2022 at 8:53 PM

I laughed out loud at "Several rooms are out of bounds."
Echo Scoakat above.

Posted by Tim W. on 27 June, 2022 at 8:03 AM

Some people find impending death truly terrifying, and shut their minds off from it, and distance themselves from it. That might include pushing away people or things that constantly remind them of it.
As Robin Williams said:
"Everyone you meet is fighting a problem you know nothing about. Be kind".

Best wishes with it all.

Posted by Joho (John Maltby) on 27 June, 2022 at 8:59 AM

Echoing what others have stated above. Sorry for the loss of your friend.

I know that "Several rooms are out of bounds" as there are a few things Sue won't let me do. e.g. I am not allowed to carry any bags containing eggs or other breakable things as I have a terrible habit of swinging bags!

Posted by delcatto on 27 June, 2022 at 4:27 PM

Without doubt the weirdest of the funerals I have been to of late.

Our group of Patchy Ladies was standing around outside afterwards (none of us felt inclined to go to the wake, but we needed to be together for a while longer) and I saw husband coming towards us. The others hadn't noticed. "Look who's heading this way!" I whispered. "Don't BW, don't!" murmured the lady I am closest to who was standing nearest me. "I wouldn't give him the satisfaction!" I said.

It was good that he thanked us for caring for her and supporting her. It was good that her only son (who has lived on the other side of the world for 30 years and hardly saw her) said during his words that he realised he had been so wrapped up in his career that he forgot what was important... but sad to realise that both of them were left with regrets that they hadn't done the right thing by our friend (their wife/mother).

It was also very concerning that of the 50-60 people there, I was the only one wearing a facemask, and that no doors were open in the crematorium. And I wear N95 standard masks in such situations.

Posted by Blue Witch on 27 June, 2022 at 7:33 PM

Russell and I spent hours every day at the bedside of our dear friend Kenny, as he was dying. His wife, son and daughter, found it too painful to be there for more than a few minutes. I could understand that, but a decade on, I'm still distressed. I suppose it would have been even worse for family members, but I wish I didn't have the mental images.

Posted by Z on 9 July, 2022 at 9:49 PM